MARRIAGE & DIVORCE

 
(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
 
Sadly too many North American marriages do breakup because of the spouses  also reaping what they had  sowed,  including unrestrained sexual lusts, personal laziness and unrealistic expectations in life.. but  outside persons also do  wrongfully help to break up  marriages.. marriages do break up  even due to the too many immoral Pastors, Ministers who counsel wrongfully divorce, or they wrongfully do fail to help the hurting, afflicted  parties, of which there are many.. and finally marriages do break up  even due also  to bad layers, governmental Ministers, policies that wrongfully  encourage divorce, marital break ups too.
 
Here are 5 related things we all do also need to know..
 
Marital Counselling - firstly you cannot help a person who refuses the help, to deal with the  truths. 
 
1:   The word “love” in English has so many different definitions supposedly including
  • Romance
  • Eros
  • Storge
  • Philia
  • Self-love
  • Desire
  • Agape
  • Narcissism
  • Sex
  • Gay
 The word “love” in English has so many various definitions as we all tend to know , for instance: I love my dog, my wife, cherry pie, my children, my sister, myself etc. 

But in the Greek there are three basic, main words for love.  Eros, Philia, Agape

Eros

One Greek word for love is “Eros”, from which we get the word erotic.  It has self-centered interests with its main focus being on physically receiving.  'Eros', means physical, sensual, romantic  affections and can be described as desires or erotic love. Many people wrongfully confuse this as being a love from God.. and they sadly do not tend to know any other levels of love.. such as  Philia  or next even Agape..

Eros is the false type of love that is most emphasized  in our society today- a sensual mostly love that is based on receiving- a passionate love depicted on TV and novels, or manifested by Gays.  One person once commented: “My friends do not fall in love; they mostly fall into lust.” 

A lot, lot of persons also today do LIVE BY THEIR FEELINGS, not by the word of God, they are mostly  led by and live by their own demonic lusts, the Eros love.. that is what a lot of these feelings still are.. even the feelings of high, excitements, desires.. they are not living in God's love or on His will for them.. This is not just the gays now, the adulterers, pornographers, but even most of ordinary supposedly good persons too who do this now, next too.

(John 8:44 KJV)  Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
 
(2 Pet 2:10 KJV)  But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness,
 
(1 John 2:16 KJV)  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
 
(1 John 2:17 KJV)  And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
 
(1 Th 4:5 KJV)  Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:
(1 Cor 6:9 KJV)  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10  Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor  extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 12  All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

We need to walk by faith, walking in faith means always applying God's word personally.. then we will walk in the love and in the Spirit of God.. not in the lust of the flesh.

(Gal 5:16 KJV)  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

In the  New Testament Greek there are only two  main words for love.    Philia  Agape

The New Testament is void of the word “Eros;  it is only found in the New Testament classical Greek.

Phileo

Another Greek word for love is “phileo”; it represents mutual  tender affection- the sharing, warm fuzzies.   It's love now  focus on both giving and receiving. 

 The word 'Philia means affection (as in Philadelphia which means brotherly affection or brotherly love (delphos = brother)).  

 Phileo is an emotional, brotherly  love, a  love which would best be illustrated in the Bible as that between David and Jonathan. 

The relationship between Lazarus and Jesus depicts this type of love as well:

Jn.11:3  So the sisters sent word to Jesus, "Lord, the one you love is sick."

Again when Jesus sees Mary crying, we read:

Jn.11:35-36  Jesus wept.  Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"

Then there was also the close disciple whom Jesus loved:

Jn.20:2  So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, and said, "They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put him

It is on the basis of Phileo that we are commanded to a brotherly kiss out of fraternal affection

Ro  16:16   Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ send greetings However when Judas greets Jesus to betray him, the Greek word is not the word for kiss, but the word phileo- the word for love:

Mk.14:44  Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: "The one I kiss (phileo) is the man; arrest him and lead him away under guard."

It is important that the command to love is never phileo, because it is an emotional love that comes out of a mutual reciprocal relationship but rather Agape 

However, it must be pointed out that for a Christian to phileo love someone definitely also always includes the agape love as well. 

God the Father Agape loved his Son:

Jn.3:35  The Father loves the Son and has placed everything in his hands.But God also phileo loved Jesus because of their relationship:

Jn.5:20  For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, to your amazement he will show him even greater things than these.

God agape loves his church

Jn.14:21  He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him."

But God also loves us because of the relationship we have with his Son:

Jn.16:27  No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.The relational phileo love for Christ is in the context of relationship, else the Bible says we will be cursed.

1Co.16:22  If anyone does not love the Lord— a curse be on him. Come, O Lord!

However if we are in a relationship with the God, he will rebuke and discipline us as the need arises:

Re.3:19  Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.

Therefore phileo love comes from a relationship which shares common interests- both giving and receiving.

Agape

Finally there is the Greek word for love: “agape” which represents an attitude of love that is non selfish. It has a self-less interest with its focus on primary giving to others.  Agape can be described as unconditional positive regard, a personal state of mind that spurs us into helpful, needful action in personal simplicity, humility, compassion and equanimity. Agape is the higher form, manifestation  of God's true love for all of us  which we all still do need to personally have, promote, cultivate by letting God have full control of our lives.

The Greek word agape is mostly  foreign to classical Greek because it’s origin is from God: 

1Jn.4:7        …for love comes from God.

The first disciples of Jesus Christ were incapable of agape love until after Pentecost, for agape love comes from the Holy Spirit alone:

Ro.5:5  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

The fact that the disciples were void of agape love prior to Pentecost  becomes clear in John 21 where Jesus uses the word agape:

Jn.21:15  When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me more than these?" "Yes, Lord," he said, "you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my lambs."

Peter’s response was “I phileo love you.”  Did Peter not understand the question?  Jesus repeats himself:

Jn.21:16  Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."

Again Jesus uses the word “agape”, yet Peter again responds with phileo, love based on a relationship.  Jesus in his third attempt asks, “Peter do you phileo love me?”

Jn.21:17  The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep.

Peter could not experience agape love in and of himself, its origin is of God:

1Jo 4:8  for God is love.

Agape is an outward manifestation of an inward change

1Co 16:14  Do everything in love.

Agape love is a love that is based on the one doing the loving and not on the one receiving the love being lovely or worthy of that love:

Ro 5:8  But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

The love of God could not be understood by man until Christ died on the cross:

1Jn.3:16  This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

Agape love is the highest love as it is selfless, this differentiates it from all human forms of love:

Jn.15:13  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

Agape love is not based on feelings, therefore it can be commanded:

Jn.15:12  "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

Agape love is not based on relationship, we are now called to love more then our neighbor, our enemy:

Lk.6:27-28   But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

There is much confusion these days on what love is.  Phileo always tries to please the one that is being loved.  Agape always does what is best on behalf of the person even though it might not be perceived as love at that time:

Ro.8:28  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Is everything good that God allows in our life, “no”; but because of his love for us, it will be for our good. 

He.12 :5-6    "My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,  because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."

In the same way, if we agape love someone, we might have to tell them how God perceives their actions.  Some people say the things others want to hear, instead we need to say those things they need to hear:

Eph 4:15   Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ

Therefore let us enjoy the phileo love we have for each other as we do life together, but let us also love with the same love that God has always willing to reach out to those who do not know the love of God. There are many kinds of love, but the greatest of these is agape love.

 (James 1:17 KJV)  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

and when we love one another with agape love, we do love God also.

http://www.kanservu.ca/~disciple/Thoughts/2002/Apr.htm

(1 Cor 12:28 KJV)  And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healing, helps, governments, diversities of tongues.29  Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles? 30  Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret? 31  But covet earnestly the best gifts: and yet show I unto you a more excellent way.

(1 Cor 13;1 KJV) Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6  Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8  Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 9  For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. 11  When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12  For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. 13  And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

(1 Cor 14:1 KJV)  Follow after charity, and desire spiritual gifts, but rather that ye may prophesy. 2  For he that speaketh in an unknown tongue speaketh not unto men, but unto God: for no man understandeth him; howbeit in the spirit he speaketh mysteries. 3  But he that prophesieth speaketh unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort. 4  He that speaketh in an unknown tongue edifieth himself; but he that prophesieth edifieth the church. 5  I would that ye all spake with tongues, but rather that ye prophesied: for greater is he that prophesieth than he that speaketh with tongues, except he interpret, that the church may receive edifying.

It is interesting that I had mailed this above message to an elected representative in Canada, and all he could comment was that this presentation was full of grammar and spelling mistakes.. I have often met such people who think that perfect English is a sign of their superiority over others.. or is spelling and grammar the limitation of the depth of their own full understanding still?a sign that  they could not talk about anything else?

2:   "Leadership Landmines It happens all the time. Successful leaders--people with great business acumen, great teams and great vision--are moving along, growing their companies when, all of a sudden, they fall flat on their faces.  Their businesses start hemorrhaging money. Their best people start jumping ship. Their families start falling apart. And they sit at their desks with their heads in their hands wondering, "How did this happen? "I'll tell you how it happened. They were blown up by a problem they never saw coming.- Dr. John C. Maxwell "

(Nahum 1:3 KJV)  The LORD is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet.
 
(Prov 29:18 KJV)  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
 
Here is some more irony, the last verse is one of the most misquoted verses too that I have come across.. the people who quote it leave out the part "but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." any proper pastoral vision must include him or her observing still God's laws.. all of them now too. That includes God's laws on divorce.. there is no divorce for two married Christian believers under any circumstances.. under any circumstances.. God said so.
 
The Church can't be claiming to fulfill the great commission of bringing people to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ and yet allowing divorce, or abusing, even  persecuting their own members for a start.. I find it very tragic, pathetic, comical the church speaks out against abortions, gays, but not against divorce... or church splits...  and yet God hates divorce, and God punishes those who abuse others. It is not enough to preach some truth to others one has also to personally to live it. Pastors and leaders included.
 
(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

GOD HATES DIVORCE AND EVEN ANY OF THE  PASTORS WHO COUNSEL DIVORCE THEY WILL ALSO NEXT WILL REAP NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES, A GARMENT OF VIOLENCE AS WELL...

(Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8  For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life  everlasting.

 (Mat 18:5 KJV)  And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. 6  But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. 7  Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! 8  Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire. 9  And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire. 10  Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven.
 
The Church itself too often and clearly does not practice this too
 
(Mat 18:11 KJV)  For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost. 12  How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray? 13  And if so be that he find it, verily I say unto you, he rejoiceth more of that sheep, than of the ninety and nine which went not astray. 14  Even so it is not the will of your Father which is in heaven, that one of these little ones should perish.
 
or this..
 
(Mat 18:15 KJV)  Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16  But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17  And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican. 18  Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. 19  Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. 20  For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
 
In fact the above verses are so often misquoted and are not mentioned that the direct context is still to disciplining a wayward brother or sister in Christ,
 
(John 13:35 KJV)  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
 
(Rev 3:19 KJV)  As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
 
(Rev 3:20 KJV)  Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
 
(Rev 3:21 KJV)  To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne.
 
To overcome, means to overcome these personal sins mentioned above, even the sins of tolerating, allowing divorces wrongfully too, sins of abusing others..
 
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV)  Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
 
(Mat 3:7 KJV)  But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism, he said unto them, O generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to come? 8  Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: 9  And think not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, that God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham. 10  And now also the ax is laid unto the root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. 11  I indeed baptize you with water unto repentance: but he that cometh after me is mightier than I, whose shoes I am not worthy to bear: he shall baptize you with the Holy Ghost, and with fire: 12  Whose fan is in his hand, and he will thoroughly purge his floor, and gather his wheat into the garner; but he will burn up the chaff with unquenchable fire.
 
More than one,  visibly wicked, immoral pastors have told me that we are not allowed to speak out against, about the sins of bad evangelical  pastors.. well it is very obvious that the prophets, and Jesus himself disagreed, they called them as well to repentance. All it takes for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it still. God will do his part but we have to do our part, which includes asking them to repent as well now.
 
(Mat 12:33 KJV)  Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.
 
(Mat 23:29 KJV)  Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! because ye build the tombs of the prophets, and garnish the sepulchres of the righteous, 
 
(Mat 25:14 KJV)  For the kingdom of heaven is as a man travelling into a far country, who called his own servants, and delivered unto them his goods. 15  And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey. 16  Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents. 17  And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two. 18  But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord's money.  19  After a long time the lord of those servants cometh, and reckoneth with them. 20  And so he that had received five talents came and brought other five talents, saying, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me five talents: behold, I have gained beside them five talents more. 21  His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 22  He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents beside them. 23  His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 24  Then he which had received the one talent came and said, Lord, I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown, and gathering where thou hast not strowed: 25  And I was afraid, and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is thine. 26  His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strowed: 27  Thou oughtest therefore to have put my money to the exchangers, and then at my coming I should have received mine own with usury. 28  Take therefore the talent from him, and give it unto him which hath ten talents. 29  For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. 30  And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.
 
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV)  Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear. 21 I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
 
(Titus 3:1 KJV)  Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work, 2  To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness unto all men.
 
(Rev 3:19 KJV)  As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
 
(Rev 3:20 KJV)  Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
 
(James 3:12 KJV)  Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13  Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
 
(Mat 5:13 KJV)  Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.
 
(Mark 9:50 KJV)  Salt is good: but if the salt have lost his saltness, wherewith will ye season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace one with another.
 
(Mat 5:16 KJV)  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
 
(1 Tim 5:21 KJV)  I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
 
(Acts 17:30 KJV)  And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: 31  Because he hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in righteousness by that man whom he hath ordained; whereof he hath given assurance unto all men, in that he hath raised him from the dead.
 
(Acts 3:19 KJV)  Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord; 20  And he shall send Jesus Christ, which before was preached unto you: "
 

3:  Divorce. It is my rightful view that each case of divorce today can be reduced likely to one of five categories:  altruistic, acutely psychotic, covetousness, unwanted partner and revenge against a partner."  and this has applied to my wife now as well.

Thousands of years ago Jesus said men and women are equal sinners, and divorce, even murder often is caused by their personal inability to cope with a hard life but also because of personal laziness, unrealistic expectation of life, selfish lusts, sexual lust as well..
 
I saw firsthand in a Hospital an ostrich type  mother indifferent to her very critically ill child because she wanted rather  to be on a date with her boyfriend.. men are like that too now.. I have seen such behavior since still too often by men and women. Someone how too many people likely because of commercials have been  wrongfully led to believe life should be easy and it is sex that will make you happy.... life is really hard for many persons in reality.. many.. we all seem to have a hard cross to bear... and even sex is not the answer. Jesus alone is. 
 
xo 20:17 KJV)  Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's. (Ezek 33:31 KJV)  And they come unto thee as the people cometh, and they sit before thee as my people, and they hear thy words, but they will not do them: for with their mouth they show much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness. This verse also to me explains why so many persons even in many Christian churches have no care, love for  the people in their own church, poor and needy persons included.. (Psa 55:21 KJV)  The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.  .(Psa 55:1 KJV)    Give ear to my prayer, O God; and hide not thyself from my supplication. 2 Attend unto me, and hear me: I mourn in my complaint, and make a noise; 3  Because of the voice of the enemy, because of the oppression of the wicked: for they cast iniquity upon me, and in wrath they hate me.
 
While next  the pastor, Minister  would run to the back of the church service to shake hands with the people leaving the church service, pretend mostly to be nice and kind, friendly to them, me included, I would next find out rather that they would even steal, lie, gossip about and slander the people even in their own churches during the week, even wrongfully counsel divorce, refuse to help the poor and needy persons.. plan to do more wrong as well. Meanwhile some church leader would approach me and say too often in even in churches  if you divorce your wife I will marry you.. what immoral pigs they are now too.
 
(Psa 55:9 KJV)  Destroy, O Lord, and divide their tongues: for I have seen violence and strife in the city.10  Day and night they go about it upon the walls thereof: mischief also and sorrow are in the midst of it.11  Wickedness is in the midst thereof: deceit and guile depart not from her streets. Now why where they so bad? Because they were, were merely hireling prostituting themselves for the money, prestige, recognition and they were not true belivers, servants of God.. They were not walking God's ways, they had  refused that, they were mostly walking wrongfully still man's ways. (Psa 55:12 KJV)  For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: 14   But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance.14  We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company. 15  Let death seize upon them, and let them go down quick into hell: for wickedness is in their dwellings, and among them. Thus I would often rightfully pray  change them or take them away.. many were fired next..  I only hlped to remove about 18 pastor in Calgary especially for counsleling divorce, absuing others, stealing as well. (Psa 55:16 KJV)  As for me, I will call upon God; and the LORD shall save me.17  Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice.18 He hath delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me: for there were many with me. (Psa 55:19 KJV)  God shall hear, and afflict them, even he that abide of old. Selah. Because they have no changes, therefore they fear not God. (Psa 55:20 KJV)  He hath put forth his hands against such as be at peace with him: he hath broken his covenant.21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords. Psa 55:22 KJV)  Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. (Psa 55:23 KJV)  But thou, O God, shalt bring them down into the pit of destruction: bloody and deceitful men shall not live out half their days; but I will trust in thee.
 
(Jer 18:12 KJV)  And they said, There is no hope: but we will walk after our own devices, and we will every one do the imagination of his evil heart.
 
(Jer 18:  KJV)   8   If that nation, against whom I have pronounced, turn from their evil, I will repent of the evil that I thought to do unto them. 9 And at what instant I shall speak concerning a nation, and concerning a kingdom, to build and to plant it; 10  If it do evil in my sight, that it obey not my voice, then I will repent of the good, wherewith I said I would benefit them. 11  ...  Thus saith the LORD; Behold, I frame evil against you, and devise a device against you: return ye now every one from his evil way, and make your ways and your doings good.
 
I had also now written in detail to many persons and said about my experiences in Calgary's evangelical Churches that many spouses have filed for divorce cause they firstly did not have an adequate relationship with God, they did not have a real faith in God, they were thus mostly following their wicked reasons, sinful lusts, desire to have more sex, money, material things too..
 
(Prov 16:25 KJV)  There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
 
 The Human mind is very deceptive, so is the related  human logic and the rather twisted incomplete reasoning data we have tends to make it worse, and this is really all because part of the corrupted, fallen human nature resulting when Adam and Eve Sinned..   Thus even today Man, sadly many bad pastors do take the very simple clear  Bible verses and try to twist them to their false lusts. Simple clearly verses made by Jesus even like these ones..
 
(Mark 10:9 KJV)  What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.11  And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. 
 
How clearly can it be? and yet next  like Eve's temptation in the garden of Eden
 
(Prov 16:25 KJV)  There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
 
"Man too often still tries to do away with God's laws on marriage and to do away with God's laws  of no divorce and wrongfully.. Unhappy supposedly Christian  spouses even in evangelical Churches wrongfully want to divorce but also  want to remarry, for they wrongfully  cannot accept the will of God laid out for them, or God for that matter in reality.. a false sexual lust is part of the main  problem.. but also more it is a real personal lack of faith in God..  even a lack of faith in  (Rom 8:28 KJV)  And we know that
all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose... and that now means now your supposedly bad marriage or your past divorce now as well..

The real lack of faith in God causes these people to wrongfully consider  alternative explanations, alternative approaches to God's ways? Sound very familiar.. does it now remind of Abraham and his wife Sarah? where Sarah  had added a human approach wrongfully to God's way, will.. to get a son ! (Gen 16:1 KJV)  Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai. Sarah next  lived to regret her wrong humanistic approach as well to God's plan, will.. (Gen 16:4 KJV)  And he( Abraham)  went in unto Hagar, and she conceived: and when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes.   5  And Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee.  God next  returned Abraham to God's original will, for Abrham to have a son through his original wife as well.  (Gen  17:15 KJV)  And God said unto Abraham, As for Sarai thy wife, thou shalt not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall her name be.16   And I will bless her, and give thee a son also of her: yea, I will bless her, and she shall be a mother of nations; kings of people shall be of her.

(1 Tim 6:17 KJV)  Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy;18 That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate;19  Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life. 20 O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called: 21   Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen.

So all things do work out for the good  of those who love God, but the evil persons rather  fall into the pit they dug with their own hands still, next.. that includes divorce now too.. Too many times today many people even supposedly Christian persons they do  take an ostrich approach to the Bible, and their unrepentant sins.. they do wrongfully deny the Bible, History that there will be  any negative consequences too for it..

(Jer 8: KJV)    5  Why then is this people of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast deceit, they refuse to return.   6  I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth into the battle.  7  Yea, the stork in the heaven knoweth her appointed times; and the turtle and the crane and the swallow observe the time of their coming; but my people know not the judgment of the LORD.  8  How do ye say, We are wise, and the law of the LORD is with us? Lo, certainly in vain made he it; the pen of the scribes is in vain.  9  The wise men are ashamed, they are dismayed and taken: lo, they have rejected the word of the LORD; and what wisdom is in them?

(We see do today see ample evidence today of pastors even distorting what they Bible actually says.. even on issues like divorce.. God says no divorce.. no abortion.. no murder... and no gays.)

10  Therefore will I give their wives unto others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them: for every one from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely.

( if you look at this verse clearly you will see that divorce is God's punishment, never a blessing too.)

11  For they have healed the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no peace.  12  Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore shall they fall among them that fall: in the time of their visitation they shall be cast down, saith the LORD.

( bad pastors will also pay a price for their lying, unrepentant sins.. that is why so many of them commit adultery now still)

13  I will surely consume them, saith the LORD: there shall be no grapes on the vine, nor figs on the fig tree, and the leaf shall fade; and the things that I have given them shall pass away from them.

(James 4:1 KJV)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? 2  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. 3  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. 4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. 5  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? 6  But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. 7  Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up. 11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge. 12  There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?

(James 3:12 KJV)  Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13  Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14  But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15  This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16  For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17  But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18  And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

God has a good  reasons for all of us obeying his laws on marriage and no divorce now  too...

(Rom 11:33 KJV)  O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out! 34  For who hath known the mind of the Lord? or who hath been his counsellor? 35  Or who hath first given to him, and it shall be recompensed unto him again? 36   For of him, and through him, and to him, are all things: to whom be glory for ever. Amen.

(Mal 2:15 KJV)  And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.16   For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting  away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. 17   Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?

Like so many other Biblical doctrines,  social issues man mostly still perverts them.. that includes the topic of divorce too.. because of unbelief in God and their following their false lusts too..

Now I have validly made up my mind  on the subject by doing a very thorough bible study of the topic.. but if you were to next read many other persons views they are so contradictory even amongst each other.. and I said God do I have to God now even deal with all  of this time consuming, conflicting presentations now again on the subject of divorce and remarriage? And I was next  surprised by God's quick answer, his voice to me directly.. "I hate divorce" and I have personally told you that clearly before too.. and " I  also hate, strongly dislike, oppose any Minister who counsels divorce".. well that was a quick and simple study.. and when anyone deviates from God's marriage standard  they become a deviate.. a pervert.. Ministers of Justice, Prime Ministers,  Presidents and this deviation leads to more and more social problems, social conflicts and not less.. you had started on a very downhill rocky, rough road when you became a deviate, a pervert.

(Rom 1:16 KJV)  For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. 17  For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. 18  For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; 19  Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath showed it
unto them. 20  For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: 21  Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22  Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 23  And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. 24  Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25  Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26  For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27  And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. 28  And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29  Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30  Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of  evil things, disobedient to parents, 31  Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32  Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

(2 Pet 2:18 KJV)  For when they speak great swelling words of vanity, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through much wantonness, those that were clean escaped from them who live in error. 19  While they promise them liberty, they themselves are the servants of corruption: for of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he brought in bondage. 20  For if after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein, and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning. 21  For it had been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than, after they have known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered unto them. 22 But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.

An  immoral person had sent me an offer to purchase his useless  book on the Christian's right of divorce and remarriage. He said a second marriage was often better than the first.. He is clearly a learned deceiver, unbeliever in God,  he does work for the devil.. I rightfully  replied to him that I did not need more toilet paper I had enough, and I also rightfully told him I did not need someone to lie to me as to what was in the Bible for I do regularly read the Bible for myself. I also told him that I do not need to read a book written by a hireling prostitute. He is using the book to conduct seminars..  Yes I do rightfully have a problem and so should we all with the so called but still very immoral Christians persons, rather thieves who are still trying to make money from the Gospel, Bibles, tapes, videos, Books, seminars now as well. So should we all.  For  I issue all my  helps free.. and only false prophets like this false Minister do ask for and take early earthly  monetary rewards for supposedly serving  God.  I also told this false Minister  that God and Jesus spoke to me but it was very clear not to him..  for  this Minister he does not really know God, Jesus or the Bible's actual teachings..

Needless to say he was very upset at me.. and replied and said to me that I needed to repent for being unloving and unforgiving towards divorced persons..

but I am really still also sure he does not even know what the word "repent" means. It really means saying to God,  God I have sinned, I have not obeyed your very clear commandments in the Bible for a start too even on being married only to one wife and no divorce, I will now obey them and please forgive me for not doing so before. Now let God lead you as to what the right thing is for you to do next as well.. are you a Christian Divorced from a Christian spouse? then you have no right to a remarriage still till
your spouse dies.. Not my rule, but God's.

(1 John 1:9 KJV)  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:10 KJV) If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.

Wounded marriages facing divorce can be made whole but very unlikely by Canada's at least 70 percent still ungodly, immoral, lustful pastors, evangelical ones  included who wrongfully take the false, supposedly easier way by counseling , recommending divorce.. I know what I am talking about I only helped to remove  about 18 of them, very poor pastors from their churches in Canada, including three founding church pastors now as well. and what has the Mother in law to do with it? Recently it was in the state of Washington where a police chief even shot his wife.. and recently the news media reported that Restraining order served on B.C. man hours before wife, mother-in-law slain- - MISSION, B.C. -- A man was being sought after his wife and mother-in-law were shot to death at a hospital had been served with a restraining order hours earlier for harassing his wife, RCMP said..  This same person later shot and killed himself when the police had found him.

These deaths are tragic and likely could have been prevented here and elsewhere too now ..if they had been adequately dealt with next not by easy divorce, restraining orders but by the proper pastoral counseling.. something our ostrich oriented  justice ministers wrongfully try to hide from, and I don't really blame them when 70 percent of the pastors are crooked themselves in Canada. In reality more women are filing for divorce than men, and more of them in western Canada than the east per capita.. but adultery is also wrongly rampant there too..

If a pastor, counselor, husband  wants to successfully deal with this he needs also to deal and expose these three items

A women tends not to file for divorce unless

1: She already in her mind, or in reality has a sexual partner substitute..

2: She has built up or acquired a cash reserve for the lawyers, divorce court battles..

3: She has the wrong immoral support of her family, friends, associated, community to carry out this wrong adulterous divorce..

Thiose are the facts of life as Jesus told me relating to divorce..

- A women has the false immoral  support of her family, and false friends, sadly even pastors,  when she applies for divorce.. they are immoral like her and they need to be told this too..  do not hesitate to tell them the whole truth

- A women does not file for divorce unless she in her  own real mind she has a substitute sex partner planed next already too.. she will next rush to him.. even though it is mostly also a fantasy not known to others .. unrealistic expectations of life.. a key contributory cause to the sexual divorces mostly today... but you had already agreed with this I see..

- Also do tell Her the wife  that before she tries to remove the beam from her husband she needs to still first deal with the beam in her own eye.. first and she needs to let Jesus still make any of the changes in the marriage .. in his time and his way..

- A women also  does not  file for divorce unless he has at least 10- 15, 000 dollars stashed away to pay the lawyers, and she also expects to make money form the divorce.. and that still makes her an sexual and now economic prostitute.. admit it or not this is a fact.

- and the way she is now treating her husband is the sadly way she responds to God as well in realty and that too still is unacceptable.

(Eph 5:23 KJV)  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

I also whole heartily agree that a wife going behind her husband's back to her relatives, to her pastors, to others is immoral.. is a sin of rebellion as well and I pray she also really now, next repents of this and stops doing this as well.

All the cases where I was able to reconcile the partners, they had to admit. deal with the truths... in other words they had to repent, of these sins, admit how sinful they themselves were, are. .. all of them.. and the still lazy people who do now really not stay in God's word, cause they are spoiled rotten and undisciplined now too  God in irony allows them to be divorce, to be punished..

Now I have often seen, encountered  this pattern. For example I had told one of my business partner that his wife was having an affair and was palling to divorce him.. he totally disbelieved me.. could I blame it.. it is a shocking jolt to the system. I knew it cause she had asked me out on a date that I had rightfully turned down. He was troubled by what I had said and he went home and thought about.. He decided that he would go through his wife personal affairs and discovered that she had salted away, hidden from him 15,000 dollars. He had  found a bank deposit book in one of her boots. But this man denied his wife was filing for her divorce or was having an affair. A few weeks later during a heated  quarrel with his wife, his wife blurted out, you are not the only one I have slept with, I have slept with two other guys now as well.. A few months later she field for divorce and divorce him.
 
The 15,000 dollars was given to her by her brother for the divorce.. .

(Prov 31:12 KJV)  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

(Exo 20:14 KJV)  Thou shalt not commit adultery.

(Exo 20:17 KJV)  Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

(Mat 5:28 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

(Mat 5:32 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:9 Divorce)  for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

I want you also to specifically also not still note God's warning of promise of clothing of violence will follow in the future all of those who DO STILL pursue divorce..

Many people get depressed rightfully when they do really  see what other people are really like today... even among their own bad family members, bad pastors, bad elders, bad politicians, bad lawyers.. etc. It is still a sin to follow men over God as well.

God is not taken by surprised by any of this he still has all things under control

(2 Pet 2:7 KJV)     And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 8  (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;) 9  The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:

(John 2:24 KJV)  But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men, 25  And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.

Sadly divorce is on the increase even among Christians wrongfully , with more women filing for divorces than men as well

Telling all the parties the truth is the first part..  you can start by sending them this.. if you really do now  want to fully help, deal with this practically.

(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

(Jer 5:8 KJV)  They were as fed horses in the morning: every one neighed after his neighbour's wife. 9 Shall I not visit for these things? saith the LORD: and shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as this?

(Jer 9:1 KJV)  Oh that my head were waters, and mine eyes a fountain of tears, that I might weep day and night for the slain of the daughter of my people!  2  Oh that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an assembly of treacherous men.

(Isa 6:5 KJV)  Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts.

(Jer 23:9 KJV)  Mine heart within me is broken because of the prophets; all my bones shake; I am like a drunken man, and like a man whom wine hath overcome, because of the LORD, and because of the words of his holiness. 10 For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force is not right. 11 For both prophet and priest are profane; yea, in my house have I found their wickedness, saith the
LORD.12  Wherefore their way shall be unto them as slippery ways in the darkness: they shall be driven on, and fall therein: for I will bring evil upon them, even the year of their visitation, saith the LORD.

Firstly a wife (or a husband)  who is proceeding with divorce is being led by her sexual hormones, lusts , and that is the number one reasons for almost all of the divorces by women as well today.. they watch too much sex on TV, women's magazines, advertisements and they think they should have the same life.. sex does not make one happy.. Jesus alone does. (Psa 51:10-12 KJV) "Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. {11} Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me. {12} Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit."

"King Arthur had a wife who next wanted Lancelot to seduce her".. this kind of demonic fantasy is the unacceptable reality of many ungodly women even today.

People who could  approve of divorce, could also next approve of  abortion and would approve of murder next too..

The people who get divorce on the average will increase their health problems due to the related stress of a divorce, cause divorce is from hell and not from God..

-and they never  experience the real fruit of the Holy Spirit of peace, gentleness.. during or after...

- they will live on the average of 8 years less too.. all of this just  for a start.

With the measure you measure it will be measured back to you.. for (Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

This  verse still applies for all of  her false divorce supporters too.. I know of many many many selfish, unrepentant Friends, neighbours, mothers who wrecked marriages.. lives.. and did not stop doing it too. they all also still needs to really  repent,  get right with God, the wife and  the husband too..

God sees what people will be like at the end after they go through much more hell on earth.. and then may admit how bad they are and the world is.. we sadly  really still cannot stop any of the  persons suffering really hard next too no matter how much we do  care for, really do love them, just like the prodigal son they too may  have to mostly learn the hard way take the long way home too..

(Ezek 14:19  KJV)   Or if I send a pestilence into that land, and pour out my fury upon it in blood, to cut off from it man and beast: 20  Though Noah, Daniel, and Job, were in it, as I live, saith the Lord GOD, they shall deliver neither son nor daughter; they shall but deliver their own souls by their righteousness. ... 23  And they shall comfort you, when ye see their ways and their doings: and ye shall know that I have not done without cause all that I have done in it, saith the Lord GOD.

All simple too

Praying they will respond to the truth presented is another matter  .. but it  still means the truth has to be told.


(2 Cor 1:3 KJV)  Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; 4  Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. 5  For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ. 6  And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation. 7  And our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye are partakers of the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation. 8  For we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in  Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life: 9  But we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead: 10 Who delivered us from so great a death, and doth deliver: in whom we trust that he will yet deliver us;

I am able to have a rightful honest Biblical understanding of divorce too and I am able to counsel divorcees with God truths and not man's distorted lies, based on their own wrong lusts..

(Heb 12:2 KJV)  Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.   3  For consider him that endured such  contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. 4  Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin. 5  And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: 6  For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 7  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 8  But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

 
 
4:  The Majority of the politicians really do not know what to do about the gay issue.. they wrongfully tend to see the gay issue as an "equality issue" for gays.. firstly as for the  gays  (2 Cor 11:13 KJV)   such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. 14  And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. 15  Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.
(1 Cor 6:19 KJV)  What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20   For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
 
In the approach to simplify the gay issue some persons have both over simplified it and have distorted it as well even  as to what the Gay persons do really want.  In reality gays do want also the religious acceptance, even God's absolution for their present immorality  but on top of that they also do want others to become gay like them.. some they as well do want  to have sex with children.
 
The Gays also wrongfully tend to  want to force their moral MARRIAGE, SEXUAL distortion on the Christians and the gays want to have the same church martial rights as Christians in the Christian Church. They cannot.

(John 8:44 KJV)  Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
 
(John 8:45 KJV)  And because I tell you the truth, ye believe me not.
 
(Acts 13:10 KJV) O full of all subtlety and all mischief, thou child of the devil, thou enemy of all righteousness, wilt thou not cease to pervert the right ways of the Lord?
The Gays they  can stop ALL OF THEIR dreaming about being accepted by the true Christian Church for their still immoral acts and union.. for the  Bible will not change..  and the true Christian church has to always follow God and  the Bible... (Heb 13:8 KJV)  "Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever". AND WITHOUT JESUS AND THE BIBLE , IT'S TEACHINGS THERE WOULD BE NO CHURCH NOW, NEXT ANYWAY.

Lust is theft of that which does not rightfully belong to you and it is certainly not love, while it is disguised as love. They gay  can't even read .. otherwise he would have known that God when he formed a marriage
 
(Gen 1:27 KJV)  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.(Gen 5:2 KJV)  Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.    (Lev 20:13 KJV)  If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. 14  And if a man take a wife and her mother, it is wickedness: they shall be burnt with fire, both he and they; that there be no wickedness among you. 15  And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast. 16  And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. 17  And if a man shall take his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter, and see her nakedness, and she see his nakedness; it is a wicked thing; and they shall be cut off in the sight of their people: he hath uncovered his sister's nakedness; he shall bear his iniquity....  19  And thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister, nor of thy father's sister: for he uncovereth his near kin: they shall bear their iniquity.
 
(Rom 1:21 KJV)  Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22  Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 23  And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. 24  Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25  Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26  For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27  And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. 28  And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29  Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

(1 John 2:16 KJV)  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
 
(Gal 5:16 KJV)  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.17  For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10   Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
 
The Bible is still very clear as to what an appropriate marriage relationship is too.
 
(1 Cor 7:2 KJV)  Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
 
(1 Tim 5:14 KJV)  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.15  For some are already turned aside after Satan.
 
(Eph 4:27 KJV)  Neither give place to the devil.
 
(Eph 6:11 KJV)  Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.12   For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.13  Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
 
(2 Tim 2:21 KJV)  If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master's use, and prepared unto every good work. 22  Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 23  But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes. 24  And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, 25  In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; 26  And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will. 3:1  This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3  Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4  Traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5  Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 6  For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 7  Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 8  Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9  But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was.
 
(2 Tim 3:13 KJV)  But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived. 14  But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them; 15  And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. 16  All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 17  That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works. 4:1  I charge thee therefore before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, who shall judge the quick and the dead at his appearing and his kingdom; 2  Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 3  For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4  And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. 
 
(1 Cor 3:17 KJV)  If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.
 
(1 Cor 4:21 KJV)  What will ye? shall I come unto you with a rod, or in love, and in the spirit of meekness?
 
(1 Cor 10:21 KJV)  Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord's table, and of the table of devils.
 
The politicians  still do need to see that there is no human rights, equality issue  here alone for   anyone now fellowshipping with the Satan is immoral still, against God's will for any one of us too..  and TO SEE  that  this whole gay issue mainly is another weapon by Satan against the Church, an attempt to corrupt the church  but the gates of hell will not prevail against the Church..
 
(Luke 10:18 KJV)  And he said unto them, I beheld Satan as lightning fall from heaven. 19  Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. 20  Notwithstanding in this rejoice not, that the spirits are subject unto you; but rather rejoice, because your names are written in heaven.
 
My Godly line in the sand has been drawn! I openly, publicly, rightfully  do make a clear stand for the traditional family concept only, and I oppose, expose  all of its enemies who wish to legalize same-sex marriage and other diverse "family" forms. So should we all. Marriage  consists  only of the union between a man and a woman and no law can even require, seek  that marital status or the legal incidents thereof be conferred upon unmarried couples or groups.
 
(Rom 16:20 KJV)  And the God of peace shall bruise Satan under your feet shortly. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.

A house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25)  applies to  the Churches, and our homes, and our marriages too.

 
Divorce
 
There still is no divorce for two Christian persons under any circumstances and those who practice it are immoral persons.
 
1 Tim 5:20 KJV)  Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
 
(Malachi 2:1 KJV And now, O ye priests, this commandment is for you. 2  If ye will not hear, and if ye will not lay it to heart, to give glory unto my name, saith the LORD of hosts, I will even send a curse upon you, and I will curse your blessings: yea, I have cursed them already, because ye do not lay it to heart. 3  Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces, even the dung of your solemn feasts; and one shall take you away with it. 4  And ye shall know that I have sent this commandment unto you, that my covenant might be with Levi, saith the LORD of hosts. 5  My covenant was with him of life and peace; and I gave them to him for the fear wherewith he feared me, and was afraid before my name. 6  The law of truth was in his mouth, and iniquity was not found in his lips: he walked with me in peace and equity, and did turn many away from iniquity. 7  For the priest's lips should keep knowledge, and they should seek the law at his mouth: for he is the messenger of the LORD of hosts. But ye are departed out of the way; ye have caused many to stumble at the law; ye have corrupted the covenant of Levi, saith the LORD of hosts. 9  Therefore have I also made you contemptible and base before all the people, according as ye have not kept my ways, but have been partial in the law. 10  Have we not all one father? hath not one God created us? why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, by profaning the covenant of our fathers? 11  Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god. 12  The LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts. 13  And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. 14  Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. 15  And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. 16  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away( Divorce) : for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. 
 
(Mal 2:17 KJV)  Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?
 
(Mal 3:1 KJV)  Behold, I will send my messenger, and he shall prepare the way before me: and the Lord, whom ye seek, shall suddenly come to his temple, even the messenger of the covenant, whom ye delight in: behold, he shall come, saith the LORD of hosts. 2  But who may abide the day of his coming? and who shall stand when he appeareth? for he is like a refiner's fire, and like fullers' soap: 3  And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver: and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer unto the LORD an offering in righteousness. 5   And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.  6  For I am the LORD, I change not;
 
Firstly I want you to note that God here in the Book of Malachi not only accuses the pastors, priest themselves of abusing God's money in the Book of Malachi but he also firstly accuses them of wrongfully supporting divorce, and thus next abusing the other persons, clearly neglecting to fulfill all of God's laws too.
 
How more clear do you want it to be what God's stand is on divorce? He says he hates it and he punishes all those persons as well those who practise it, teach it in the ministry firstly. As well as those pastors and priests who abuse God's money too. Stealing, abusing others and divorce are  bad personal sins still to God.
 
(Mal 3:7 KJV)  Even from the days of your fathers ye are gone away from mine ordinances, and have not kept them. Return unto me, and I will return unto you, saith the LORD of hosts. But ye said, Wherein shall we return? 8  Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings.
 
I now personally have found Canada's stand on homosexual shocking, perverted, a step back to the dark ages  but God still does remind me also that abortion, and divorce, even the  too often false rejections  of other Christians  are all equally bad and are all still also unacceptable anywhere even in Canada..
 
Make no mistake about it God clearly distinguishes between the good and  the bad persons here on earth even by their own  personal acts and their relationship to God's word.... 
 
God's good people respect, follow  God's word daily, and the bad people do not..  thus next the futile, bad acts of the bad persons will still not even prosper  them. Note that they will not prosper, get away with their own bad acts. Divorce, stealing, personal abuse  are all conscious, deliberate wrong acts that God does not take lightly but he still also himself punishes the persons who do them.
 
Even in Canada now all Pastors, all Ministers and all Premiers also should stop breaking up marriages as well.. and so should the Queen's  Family courts, lawyers and judges especially. All persons who deliberately help to break up marriages are bad, evil persons still.  All!.
 
All it takes for evil people to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it. If the evil persons are not punished they will next not learn to do good now too. Public exposure and prosecution of the guilty serves as a best deterrent to all.  For if all of the evil persons are no punished, face personal negative consequences for their own unrepentant sins  they will next not learn to do good in the land allotted to the righteous. I do not approve of anyone or take lightlfy anyone involved in breaking up a marriage between and man and his wife not does God still. Nor should we all.
 
(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away( Divorce) : for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
 
(Gen 35:2 KJV)  Put away the strange gods that are among you, and be clean, and change your garments:
 
Note secondly and specifically  the promise of personally reaping "a garment of violence" for those who practiced divorced. They reap what they sow cause they are hiding their wrong, violent act against their spouse under the  law as well.
 
Psa 81:8 KJV)  Hear, O my people, and I will testify unto thee: O Israel, if thou wilt hearken unto me; 9  There shall no strange god be in thee; neither shalt thou worship any strange god. 10  I am the LORD thy God, which brought thee out of the land of Egypt: open thy mouth wide, and I will fill it. 11  But my people would not hearken to my voice; and Israel would none of me. 12  So I gave them up unto their own hearts' lust: and they walked in their own counsels. 13  Oh that my people had hearkened unto me, and Israel had walked in my ways! 14  I should soon have subdued their enemies, and turned my hand against their adversaries. 15  The haters of the LORD should have submitted themselves unto him: but their time should have endured for ever. 16  He should have fed them also with the finest of the wheat: and with honey out of the rock should I have satisfied thee.
 
Divorce is one of these false, strange unacceptable Gods. A false idol. All pastors, lawyers, court Judges, all persons should always be working to reconcile marriages and not to break them up.
 
(Psa 82:1 KJV)   God standeth in the congregation of the mighty; he judgeth among the gods. How long will ye judge unjustly, and accept the persons of the wicked? Selah. Defend the poor and fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy. 4  Deliver the poor and needy: rid them out of the hand of the wicked.They know not, neither will they understand; they walk on in darkness: all the foundations of the earth are out of course. 6  I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High. 7  But ye shall die like men, and fall like one of the princes. 8  Arise, O God, judge the earth: for thou shalt inherit all nations.
 
(Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
 
(Josh 24:23 KJV)  Now therefore put away, said he, the strange gods which are among you, and incline your heart unto the LORD God of Israel.
 
by putting away the strange God of divorce too and rightfully as soon as possible   as well..
 
Also (Prov 4:24 KJV)  Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee.
 
We all can also quickly find out firsthand that lies are prevalent in all divorces, quickly illustrating that this whole procedure is of the devil and not of God.
 
"In the US they  have killed by abortion  more than the entire population of Canada. And it continues.." yet even many years ago God told me firsthand that Christians hypocritically will speak out against gays, abortions, drunks, pornography.. but not against divorce..  why hypocritically?  they themslves do rarely speak out against divorce which cripples many persons for life.. at least 70 percent of marriages will next wrongfully end up in divorce.. 
 
God did not ever command divorce, as he hates, despises divorce and even the people who do practise it  just as much as he hates any other vile sin, making today's practice of divorce mostly for even lust or mere sexual pleasures, incompatibility also still very unacceptable to God.
 
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 Jn.4:7-8)
 
(Gen 35:2 KJV)  Then Jacob said unto his household, and to all that were with him, Put away the strange gods that are among you, and be clean, and change your garments:
 
(Deu 17:12 KJV)  And the man that will do presumptuously, and will not hearken unto the priest that standeth to minister there before the LORD thy God, or unto the judge, even that man shall die: and thou shalt put away the evil from Israel.
 
(Deu 19:13 KJV)  Thine eye shall not pity him, but thou shalt put away the guilt of innocent blood from Israel, that it may go well with thee.
 
(Deu 21:9 KJV)  So shalt thou put away the guilt of innocent blood from among you, when thou shalt do that which is right in the sight of the LORD.
 
(Josh 24:14 KJV)  Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD.
 
(Josh 24:23 KJV)  Now therefore put away, said he, the strange gods which are among you, and incline your heart unto the LORD God of Israel.
 
Honest, God fearing persons obey and follow after God in his clear objection  divorce as well but what about you?
 
(Judg 10:16 KJV)  And they put away the strange gods from among them, and served the LORD: 
 
As even the Bible illustrates many times sadly not all professing Christians obey God's will still too. So God has to negatively deal with them himself as well.
 
(Judg 20:13 KJV)  Now therefore deliver us the men, the children of Belial, which are in Gibeah, that we may put them to death, and put away evil from Israel. But the children of Benjamin would not hearken to the voice of their brethren the children of Israel:
 
(1 Sam 7:3 KJV)  And Samuel spake unto all the house of Israel, saying, If ye do return unto the LORD with all your hearts, then put away the strange gods and Ashtaroth from among you, and prepare your hearts unto the LORD, and serve him only: and he will deliver you out of the hand of the Philistines.
 
God expects us to do our parts still too., he will do his part which includes God punishing the still wicked, unrepenting persons here on earth and even elsewhere. God does punish individual persons for their unrepentant sins. Shocking isn't it.
 
(1 Sam 7:4 KJV)  Then the children of Israel did put away Baalim and Ashtaroth, and served the LORD only.
 
(2 Sam 7:15 KJV)  But my mercy shall not depart away from him, as I took it from Saul, whom I put away before thee.
 
(2 Sam 12:13 KJV)  And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put away thy sin; thou shalt not die.
 
(2 Ki 3:2 KJV)  And he wrought evil in the sight of the LORD; but not like his father, and like his mother: for he put away the image of Baal that his father had made.
 
(2 Ki 23:24 KJV)  Moreover the workers with familiar spirits, and the wizards, and the images, and the idols, and all the abominations that were spied in the land of Judah and in Jerusalem, did Josiah put away, that he might perform the words of the law which were written in the book that Hilkiah the priest found in the house of the LORD.
 
(2 Chr 15:8 KJV)  And when Asa heard these words, and the prophecy of Oded the prophet, he took courage, and put away the abominable idols out of all the land of Judah and Benjamin, and out of the cities which he had taken from mount Ephraim, and renewed the altar of the LORD, that was before the porch of the LORD.
 
(Est 8:3 KJV)  And Esther spake yet again before the king, and fell down at his feet, and besought him with tears to put away the mischief of Haman the Agagite, and his device that he had devised against the Jews.
 
(Job 22:23 KJV)  If thou return to the Almighty, thou shalt be built up, thou shalt put away iniquity far from thy tabernacles.
 
(Psa 18:22 KJV)  For all his judgments were before me, and I did not put away his statutes from me.
 
(Psa 88:8 KJV)  Thou hast put away mine acquaintance far from me; thou hast made me an abomination unto them: I am shut up, and I cannot come forth.
 
(Prov 4:24 KJV)  Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee.
 
(Eccl 11:10 KJV)  Therefore remove sorrow from thy heart, and put away evil from thy flesh: for childhood and youth are vanity.
 
(Ezek 43:9 KJV)  Now let them put away their whoredom, and the carcases of their kings, far from me, and I will dwell in the midst of them for ever.
 
(1 Cor 13:11 KJV)  When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
 
(Eph 4:31 KJV)  Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
 
(1 Tim 1:19 KJV)  Holding faith, and a good conscience; which some having put away concerning faith have made shipwreck:
 
(Heb 9:26 KJV)  For then must he often have suffered since the foundation of the world: but now once in the end of the world hath he appeared to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself.
 
Now how about you still as well putting away the strange God of divorce rightfully now as well.. starting in the Churches.
 
"The Pharisees asked, 'Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?' 'Haven't you read', Jesus replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.' 'Why then,' they asked, 'did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?' Jesus replied, 'Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard." (Mt.19:3-8 NIV)
 
Note that Moses did not command divorce but permitted it as was already being practiced due to the hardness of the peoples' hearts- an unwillingness to yield to God's plan that they remain together for life. The law itself , God's laws did not permit divorce, not even for adultery in the Old Testament , it rather required stoning to death for adultery.. and no New Testament law even permits divorce now too, and note even   separation or divorce does not give anyone a right still to remarry now as well!!!

(Deu 22:22 KJV)  If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
 
(Deu 22:24 KJV)  Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.
 
A past, present common social  practice in Israel was that ""If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That still would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord."  (Dt.24:1-4 NIV)
 
It is important to notice still that this law does not institute divorce or place God's seal of approval on divorce, but rather it starts: "if a man". The woman who was divorced and remarried was considered defiled by God, implying that the divorce did not free her to enter a second marriage covenant. The law was adamant that divorce did not free the person to remarry: And
 
" Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." (1 Co.6:16)
 
(Lev 21:7 KJV)  They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God.(Jer 3:1 KJV)  They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.
 
The Lack of love is a false excuse for any marital divorce, realtionship divorce bow  as well.  Love also is more than an emotion, love is a  commitment that goes beyond how anyone feels. In this way we are not commanded to feel love toward someone, we are commanded to have a personal, deliberate attitude of of obedince, of havung love toward firstly God, our brothers and sisters, parents, our spouse and opur children as well.. Love it is a command and not an optional emotion.
 
(Jer 4:1 KJV)  If thou wilt return, O Israel, saith the LORD, return unto me: and if thou wilt put away thine abominations out of my sight, then shalt thou not remove.
 
(Ezek 44:22 KJV)  Neither shall they take for their wives a widow, nor her that is put away: but they shall take maidens of the seed of the house of Israel, or a widow that had a priest before.
 
(Hosea 2:2 KJV)  Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts;
 
(Mat 5:31 KJV)  It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32   But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
 
(Mat 19:3 KJV)  The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
 
(Mat 19:8 KJV)  He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
 
(Mark 10:11 KJV)  And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
 
(Mark 10:12 KJV)  And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
 
(1 Cor 7:11 KJV)  But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
 
(Mat 19:9 KJV)  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
 
(Mark 10:2 KJV)  And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.
 
(Luke 16:18 KJV)  Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
 
All of the basic New testament Gospels are still also clear that Divorce is unacceptable.
 
" Divorce is a public act of putting away a spouse through a written certificate of divorce in the presence of the elders. The Greek word that is translated "divorce" is "apoluo" which means "to send/put away". In those instances that it is interpreted as "divorce" it is due to the context in which it is used. For instance, the word is used in the sending away of the Canaanite woman when the disciples said,  "Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us." (Mt.15:23 NIV).
 
Even though this would have been a public act it wasn't in the context of a husband and wife, hence it was translated as "Send her away". Another use of this word is found when we read:  "And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man, and not wanting to disgrace her, desired to put her away secretly." (Mt.1:19 NASB) Even though this is a putting away of someone who is betrothed, it should not be interpreted as divorce. Since the marriage was not consummated, it could be done privately as Joseph was going to do- divorce is public. However we can interpret it as "divorce" when we read,  "And it was said, 'Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of divorce." (Mt5:31 NASB)
For even though there is no mention of public awareness, but is accompanied by a certificate of divorce it is correctly translated as divorce.
 
(Isa 50:1 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD, Where is the bill of your mother's divorcement, whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away.
 
The above verse still  shows that divorce is a personal sinful act and not rather any righteous  act of God.
 
The original Bible lanaguage itself now does not use a specific common word for divorce for it does not approve of it,  it merely uses the substituted word for the act that  means "to send or put away"; the context also here dictates the translation."
 
(1 Cor 5:13 KJV)  But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.
 
Any of the People who tolerate divorce need to be also now removed from the church.
 
(Isa 1:16 KJV)  Wash you, make you clean; put away the evil of your doings from before mine eyes; cease to do evil;
 
(Ezra 10:3 KJV)  Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law.
 
(Ezra 10:19 KJV)  And they gave their hands that they would put away their ( unbelieving, heathen)  wives; and being guilty, they offered a ram of the flock for their trespass.
 
The personal still negative consequences of allowing divorce.
 
"Leadership Landmines It happens all the time.Successful leaders--people with great business acumen, great teams and great vision--are moving along, growing their companies when, all of a sudden, they fall flat on their faces.  Their businesses start hemorrhaging money. Their best people start jumping ship. Their families start falling apart. And they sit at their desks with their heads in their hands wondering, "How did this happen?"I'll tell you how it happened. They were blown up by a problem they never saw coming.- Dr. John C. Maxwell "
 
(Nahum 1:3 KJV)  The LORD is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet.
 
(Prov 29:18 KJV)  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
 
Here is some more irony, the last verse is one of the most misquoted verses too that I have come across.. the people who quote it often do leave out the part "but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." Any proper pastoral vision must include him or her observing still God's laws.. all of them now too. That includes God's laws on divorce.. there is no divorce for two married Christian believers under any circumstances.. under any circumstances.. God said so.
 
The Church can't be claiming to fulfill the great commission of bringing people to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ and yet allowing divorce, or abusing, even  persecuting their own members for a start..
 
 I still do find it very tragic, pathetic, comical the church speaks out against abortions, gays, but not against divorce... or the false church splits...  and yet God hates divorce, and God punishes those who abuse others. It is not enough even to preach some truth to others one has also to personally to live it. Pastors and leaders included.
 
(James 1:18 KJV)  Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.
 
(Rom 8:23 KJV)  And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
 
(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

AGAIN DO NOTE THE TRUTH THAT GOD HATES DIVORCE AND EVEN ANY OF THE  PASTORS WHO COUNSEL DIVORCE THEY WILL ALSO NEXT WILL REAP NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES, A GARMENT OF VIOLENCE AS WELL...

(Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8  For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.
 
THOSE UNREPENTING PERSONS WHO HURT OTHERS BY THEIR FALSE TEACHING, RECOMMENDATIONS, PERSONAL ACTS WILL PAY A PRICE STILL FOR IT AS WELL
 
(Mat 18:5 KJV)  And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. 6  But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. 7  Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! 8  Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire. 9  And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire. 10  Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven.

Sadly the church itself too often today clearly does not practice the sanctity of marriage, or of personal realtionships too
 
(Mat 18:11 KJV)  For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost. 12  How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray? 13  And if so be that he find it, verily I say unto you, he rejoiceth more of that sheep, than of the ninety and nine which went not astray. 14  Even so it is not the will of your Father which is in heaven, that one of these little ones should perish.
 
or this..
 
(Mat 18:15 KJV)  Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16  But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17  And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican. 18  Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. 19  Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. 20  For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
 
Note also in fact the above verses are so often misquoted and are not mentioned that the direct context is still to disciplining a wayward brother or sister in Christ, and not rather getting by prayer your lust filled.
 
(John 13:35 KJV)  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
 
(Rev 3:19 KJV)  As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
 
(Rev 3:20 KJV)  Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
 
(Rev 3:21 KJV)  To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne.
 
To overcome, means to overcome these personal sins mentioned above, even the sins of tolerating, allowing all divorces and wrongfully too, the sins of abusing others..
 
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV)  Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
 
(Mat 3:7 KJV)  But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism, he said unto them, O generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to come? 8  Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: 9  And think not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, that God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham. 10  And now also the ax is laid unto the root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. 11  I indeed baptize you with water unto repentance: but he that cometh after me is mightier than I, whose shoes I am not worthy to bear: he shall baptize you with the Holy Ghost, and with fire: 12  Whose fan is in his hand, and he will thoroughly purge his floor, and gather his wheat into the garner; but he will burn up the chaff with unquenchable fire.
 
More than one, visibly wicked, immoral pastors have wrongfully even told me that we are not allowed to speak out against, about the sins of bad evangelical  pastors.. well it is very obvious that the prophets, and Jesus himself disagreed, they called them as well to repentance. All it takes for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it still. God will do his part but we have to do our part, which includes asking them to repent as well now.
 
(Mat 12:33 KJV)  Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.
 
(Mat 23:29 KJV)  Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! because ye build the tombs of the prophets, and garnish the sepulchres of the righteous, 30  And say, If we had been in the days of our fathers, we would not have been partakers with them in the blood of the prophets. 31  Wherefore ye be witnesses unto yourselves, that ye are the children of them which killed the prophets. 32  Fill ye up then the measure of your fathers. 33  Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell? 34  Wherefore, behold, I send unto you prophets, and wise men, and scribes: and some of them ye shall kill and crucify; and some of them shall ye scourge in your synagogues, and persecute them from city to city: 35  That upon you may come all the righteous blood shed upon the earth, from the blood of righteous Abel unto the blood of Zacharias son of Barachias, whom ye slew between the temple and the altar. 36  Verily I say unto you, All these things shall come upon this generation. 37  O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! 38  Behold, your house is left unto you desolate.
 
(Mat 25:14 KJV)  For the kingdom of heaven is as a man travelling into a far country, who called his own servants, and delivered unto them his goods. 15  And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey. 16  Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents. 17  And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two. 18  But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord's money.  19  After a long time the lord of those servants cometh, and reckoneth with them. 20  And so he that had received five talents came and brought other five talents, saying, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me five talents: behold, I have gained beside them five talents more. 21  His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 22  He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents beside them. 23  His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 24  Then he which had received the one talent came and said, Lord, I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown, and gathering where thou hast not strowed: 25  And I was afraid, and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is thine. 26  His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strowed: 27  Thou oughtest therefore to have put my money to the exchangers, and then at my coming I should have received mine own with usury. 28  Take therefore the talent from him, and give it unto him which hath ten talents. 29  For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. 30  And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.
Even if your pastor. elder, priest is the one that is sinning now rebuke them in love.. if you do not rebuke them it is likely cause you do not love them too.(Rev 3:19 KJV)  As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
 
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV)  Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear. 21 I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
 
(2 Tim 4:2 KJV)  Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 3  For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4  And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
 
(Titus 1:13 KJV)  This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith; 14  Not giving heed to Jewish fables, and commandments of men, that turn from the truth.
 
(Titus 2:14 KJV)  Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.15   These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.
 
(Titus 3:1 KJV)  Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work, 2  To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness unto all men.
 
(Rev 3:19 KJV)  As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
 
(Rev 3:20 KJV)  Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
 
(James 3:12 KJV)  Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13  Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14  But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15  This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16  For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17  But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18  And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
 
(Mat 5:13 KJV)  Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.
 
(Mark 9:50 KJV)  Salt is good: but if the salt have lost his saltness, wherewith will ye season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace one with another.
 
(Mat 5:16 KJV)  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
 
Here is the irony I  know from actual personal experiences that sending this same page to Evangelical pastors in Canada will cause them to falsely object to even Jesus own words being presented  to them for they wrongfully do not like it when the tables are turned on them .
 
(1 Tim 5:21 KJV)  I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
 
(Acts 17:30 KJV)  And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: 31  Because he hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in righteousness by that man whom he hath ordained; whereof he hath given assurance unto all men, in that he hath raised him from the dead.
 
(Acts 3:19 KJV)  Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord; 20  And he shall send Jesus Christ, which before was preached unto you:
 
The Bible is clear in its teaching that the marriage relationship  is a permanent one. I also have never read one verse in the Bible where God approved divorce OF TWO BELIVERS IN JESUS CHRIST. The whole idea of divorce is diametrically opposed to the marriage plan as it was instituted by God.

From the very beginning God intended one man for one woman and no more.

Marriage is for life.

The person who utters the solemn vow, “Till death do us part,” and  practices divorce is a liar and a hypocrite. Remember, God still holds the marriage contract.

(Psalm 73:6 KJV)  Therefore pride compasseth them about as a chain; violence covereth them as a garment.

(Exe 18:4 KJV)  Behold, all souls are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is mine: the soul that sinneth, it shall die. 5  But if a man be just, and do that which is lawful and right, 6  And hath not eaten upon the mountains, neither hath lifted up his eyes to the idols of the house of Israel, neither hath defiled his neighbour's wife, neither hath come near to a menstruous woman, 7  And hath not oppressed any, but hath restored to the debtor his pledge, hath spoiled none by violence, hath given his bread to the hungry, and hath covered the naked with a garment;8  He that hath not given forth upon usury, neither hath taken any increase, that hath withdrawn his hand from iniquity, hath executed true judgment between man and man,

(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

AGAIN GOD HATES DIVORCE AND EVEN ANY OF THE  PASTORS WHO COUNSEL DIVORCE THEY WILL ALSO NEXT WILL REAP NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES, A GARMENT OF VIOLENCE AS WELL...

(Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

(Gal 6:8 KJV)  For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

In reality,  let me say that sexual lust is the majority cause of most of the divorces, of the union of gays, lesbians,  and that sadly in my own expereinces many pastors, Evangelical, Pentecostal ones too, are still wrongfully sex addicts, thus they wrongfully want to keep the option of divorce open for themselves in case their spouse longer meets their OWN  sexual needs.  They are carnal, serving the flesh and not God still..  I know I have firsthand often exposed, fought and fired many such bad unrepenting Church pastors WITH GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS AND SUPPORT. One specific unrepentant pastor that I knew who counseled divorce clearly as witnessed by his neighbors even next  lost the ability to love his own wife and his own children next.. such is reality..

(Gal 6:9 KJV)  And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

(Gal 6:10 KJV)  As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

The Lord Jesus Christ could not be in disagreement with His Father's ruling on the permanency of marriage. He said, “Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:4-6; Mark 10:6-9 cf. Genesis 2:24).

If you want a happy life and a happy marriage, abide by God's rules and shun the demon of divorce.

Beware of all teaching and teachers, whether in or out of the organized church, which speak of “scriptural grounds for divorce.” Divorce firstly also is never mandatory.

Such supposed “grounds” for divorce are based on a single parenthetical phrase, “except it be for fornication” (Matthew 5:32; 19:9),  formication is a forbidden act of still unmarried persons. Divorce here alone also is an option and not madndatory . In the entire context in which our Lord is still  teaching the permanency, or indissolubility of the marriage relation." Note the clear distinction between the words “fornication” and “adultery.” These two words are not used interchangeably because they are not synonymous in their meanings. The word “fornication” (Gr. porneia) means “illicit sexual intercourse of unmarried persons.” The word “adultery” (Gr. Moikeia) means “illicit sexual intercourse of two persons when either is married to a third person.” In the exception clause our Lord used the word “fornication.” The word He used had not lost its meaning, and we may be certain He expressed Himself clearly. The exception clause is not dealing with the sin of married persons.

Why then did Christ use the word “fornication” of that sin of which a “wife” can be guilty?

A wife in the Orient was so called when the betrothal or engagement was announced. This is evidenced in Matthew 1:19 where we read, “Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.” Actually he was not her husband by the standards of our western civilization because there had not been the consummation of the civil ceremony nor the marriage act. Mary's pregnancy was looked upon (by those who did not know the truth) as the result of fornication, not adultery. In verse 20 the angel added, “Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife.” According to our Western usage of the word “wife” she was not yet Joseph's wife, but by the custom of the Jews, a betrothed girl was called a wife. (See Deuteronomy 22:23-24.) Joseph accepted the testimony of the angel, believing that Mary had not committed fornication. Our Lord's enemies would not believe the truth about his supernatural and miraculous conception, and so they taunted Him with the innuendo, “We be not born of fornication” (John 8:41). The parenthetical phrase, “except it be for fornication” does not fit the case of married persons. Our Lord is merely saying that sexual unfaithfulness on the part of either party involved in a betrothal agreement, allows for the breaking of that contract. God's rule that marriage is for life has never been annulled.

(Once your are married there is no divorce allowed..)

Listen again to Jesus  Christ speaking on this . “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery” (Luke 16:18). This verse might appear to be disconnected from the rest of the passage, but actually it is an essential part of the context. The Pharisees had derided Christ for His teaching in the parable in verses 1-12. While they were legalistic in their demands upon others, insisting that Moses' laws be obeyed, they were guilty of breaking those same laws . . .

In answering their ridicule, Christ said, “The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the Kingdom of God is preached . . .”  (vs. 16). He defends the law of Moses in verse 17, and immediately follows with His “Kingdom of God” teaching about marriage. The marriage rule in verse 18 preceded and superseded the Law of Moses. This is God's rule for His people.

Now examine our Lord's words in Mark 10:11,12. “And He saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.” In both the Mark and Luke passages there is not the “exception” clause. The word “adultery” is used, The message is unmistakably clear. The demon of divorce is condemned.

 Recently I read again Malachi 2:11-16. I am convinced that the prophet was strongly persuaded that God was not hearing the prayers of His people because of the multiple divorces in Israel at that time. What Malachi wrote indicates clearly that God hates divorce."  Dr.L Strauss Download Word Document http://bible.org/docs/splife/chrhome/mad.htm

See also http://www.kanservu.ca/~disciple/Issues/Marriage/Divorce.html

(Psa 37:27 KJV)  Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for evermore.
 
(Psa 37:28 KJV)  For the LORD loveth judgment, and forsaketh not his saints; they are preserved for ever: but the seed of the wicked shall be cut off.
 
(Psa 37:29 KJV)  The righteous shall inherit the land, and dwell therein for ever.
 
(Psa 37:30 KJV)  The mouth of the righteous speaketh wisdom, and his tongue talketh of judgment.
 
There rightfully is no doubt by  my own personal experience that Money hungry Hirelings, morally incompetent Evangelicals Pastors  are in a hurry to spread their faith for hopeful more monetary gains do even falsely counsel marital divorce, and aid in breaking up homes if necessary to do this if necessary especially in Calgary, Canada and even in other parts of Canada.  All Pastor should work only towards reconciliation. And no ifs, buts about it now too. As to the mostly pretentious , inadequate evangelical Pastors in Canada, God and  I still rightfully also do not accept rightfully their wrong doings quietly anymore too. God does not overlook these still unrepentant sins..
 
(Nahum 1:3 KJV)  The LORD is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet.
 
(Prov 29:18 KJV)  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
 
Here is some more irony, the last verse is one of the most misquoted verses too that I have come across.. the people who quote it leave out the part "but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." any proper pastoral vision must include him or her observing still God's laws.. all of them now too. That includes God's laws on divorce.. there is no divorce for two married Christian believers under any circumstances.. under any circumstances.. God said so.
 
It is my rightful view that each case of divorce today can be reduced likely to one of five categories:  altruistic, acutely psychotic, covetousness, unwanted partner and revenge against a partner."  and this has applied to my wife now as well.
 
Thousands of years ago Jesus said men and women are equal sinners, and divorce, even murder often is caused by their personal inability to cope with a hard life but also because of personal laziness, unrealistic expectation of life, selfish lusts, sexual lust as well..
 
I saw firsthand in a Hospital an ostrich type  mother indifferent to her very critically ill child because she wanted rather  to be on a date with her boyfriend.. men are like that too now.. I have seen such behavior since still too often by men and women. Someone how too many people likely because of commercials have been  wrongfully led to believe life should be easy and it is sex that will make you happy.... life is really hard for many persons in reality.. many.. we all seem to have a hard cross to bear... and even sex is not the answer. Jesus alone is. 
 
Someone said the farther west you go in Canada the less compassionate, human the men and women too seem to be. I saw this myself as true.. having worked in 9 provinces myself. But the city of Calgary was one of the worst.. It clearly often broke this commandment.. (Exo 20:17 KJV)  Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's. (Ezek 33:31 KJV)  And they come unto thee as the people cometh, and they sit before thee as my people, and they hear thy words, but they will not do them: for with their mouth they show much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness. This verse also to me explains why so many persons even in almost all of the Calgary Christian churches have no care, love for  the people in their own church, poor and needy persons included.. (Psa 55:21 KJV)  The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords. This verse clearly describes my past relations with the many mostly bad, poor evangelical  pastors and governmental Ministers that  I have met, dealt with in Calgary and in other parts of Canada..(Psa 55:1 KJV)    Give ear to my prayer, O God; and hide not thyself from my supplication. 2 Attend unto me, and hear me: I mourn in my complaint, and make a noise; 3  Because of the voice of the enemy, because of the oppression of the wicked: for they cast iniquity upon me, and in wrath they hate me. While next  the pastor, Minister  would run to the back of the church service to shake hands with the people leaving the church service, pretend mostly to be nice and kind, friendly to them, me included, I would next find out rather that they would even steal, lie, gossip about and slander the people even in their own churches during the week, even wrongfully counsel divorce, refuse to help the poor and needy persons.. plan to do more wrong as well. Meanwhile some church leader woudl approach me and say too often in Calgary if you divorce your wife i will marry you.. what immoral pigs they are now too.(Psa 55:9 KJV)  Destroy, O Lord, and divide their tongues: for I have seen violence and strife in the city.10  Day and night they go about it upon the walls thereof: mischief also and sorrow are in the midst of it.11  Wickedness is in the midst thereof: deceit and guile depart not from her streets. Now why where they so bad? Because they were, were merely hireling prostituting themselves for the money, prestige, recognition and they were not true belivers, servants of God.. They were not walking God's ways, they had  refused that, they were mostly walking wrongfully still man's ways. (Psa 55:12 KJV)  For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: 14   But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance.14  We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company. 15  Let death seize upon them, and let them go down quick into hell: for wickedness is in their dwellings, and among them. Thus I would often rightfully pray  change them or take them away.. many were fired next..  I only hlped to remove about 18 pastor in Calgary especially for counsleling divorce, absuing others, stealing as well. (Psa 55:16 KJV)  As for me, I will call upon God; and the LORD shall save me.17  Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice.18 He hath delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me: for there were many with me. (Psa 55:19 KJV)  God shall hear, and afflict them, even he that abide of old. Selah. Because they have no changes, therefore they fear not God. (Psa 55:20 KJV)  He hath put forth his hands against such as be at peace with him: he hath broken his covenant.21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords. This verse reminds me of their reality what many of the pastors, elders  in Calgary' evangelical churches even  are like too..Sadly I do still have to pray for God to deal with he too many wicked,bad pastors even governmental Ministers now in Canada.. (Psa 55:22 KJV)  Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. (Psa 55:23 KJV)  But thou, O God, shalt bring them down into the pit of destruction: bloody and deceitful men shall not live out half their days; but I will trust in thee.
 
(Jer 18:12 KJV)  And they said, There is no hope: but we will walk after our own devices, and we will every one do the imagination of his evil heart.
 
(Jer 18:  KJV)   8   If that nation, against whom I have pronounced, turn from their evil, I will repent of the evil that I thought to do unto them. 9 And at what instant I shall speak concerning a nation, and concerning a kingdom, to build and to plant it; 10  If it do evil in my sight, that it obey not my voice, then I will repent of the good, wherewith I said I would benefit them. 11  ...  Thus saith the LORD; Behold, I frame evil against you, and devise a device against you: return ye now every one from his evil way, and make your ways and your doings good.
 
I had also now written in detail to many persons and said about my experiences in Calgary's evangelical Churches that many spouses have filed for divorce cause they firstly did not have an adequate relationship with God, they did not have a real faith in God, they were thus mostly following their wicked reasons, sinful lusts, desire to have more sex, money, material things too..
 
(Prov 16:25 KJV)  There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
 
 The Human mind is very deceptive, so is the related  human logic and the rather twisted incomplete reasoning data we have tends to make it worse, and this is really all because part of the corrupted, fallen human nature resulting when Adam and Eve Sinned..   Thus even today Man, sadly many bad pastors do take the very simple clear  Bible verses and try to twist them to their false lusts. Simple clearly verses made by Jesus even like these ones..
 
(Mark 10:9 KJV)  What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.11  And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. 
 
How clearly can it be? and yet next  like Eve's temptation in the garden of Eden
 
(Prov 16:25 KJV)  There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
 
"Man too often still tries to do away with God's laws on marriage and to do away with God's laws  of no divorce and wrongfully.. Unhappy supposedly Christian  spouses even in evangelical Churches wrongfully want to divorce but also  want to remarry, for they wrongfully  cannot accept the will of God laid out for them, or God for that matter in reality.. a false sexual lust is part of the main  problem.. but also more it is a real personal lack of faith in God..  even a lack of faith in  (Rom 8:28 KJV)  And we know that
all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose... and that now means now your supposedly bad marriage or your past divorce now as well..

The real lack of faith in God causes these people to wrongfully consider  alternative explanations, alternative approaches to God's ways? Sound very familiar.. does it now remind of Abraham and his wife Sarah? where Sarah  had added a human approach wrongfully to God's way, will.. to get a son ! (Gen 16:1 KJV)  Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai. Sarah next  lived to regret her wrong humanistic approach as well to God's plan, will.. (Gen 16:4 KJV)  And he( Abraham)  went in unto Hagar, and she conceived: and when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes.   5  And Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee.  God next  returned Abraham to God's original will, for Abrham to have a son through his original wife as well.  (Gen  17:15 KJV)  And God said unto Abraham, As for Sarai thy wife, thou shalt not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall her name be.16   And I will bless her, and give thee a son also of her: yea, I will bless her, and she shall be a mother of nations; kings of people shall be of her.

(1 Tim 6:17 KJV)  Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy;18 That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate; 19  Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life. 20 O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called: 21   Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen.

So all things do work out for the good  of those who love God, but the evil persons rather  fall into the pit they dug with their own hands still, next.. that includes divorce now too.. Too many times today many people even supposedly Christian persons they do  take an ostrich approach to the Bible, and their unrepentant sins.. they do wrongfully deny the Bible, History that there will be  any negative consequences too for it..

(Jer 8: KJV)    5  Why then is this people of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast deceit, they refuse to return.   6  I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth into the battle.  7  Yea, the stork in the heaven knoweth her appointed times; and the turtle and the crane and the swallow observe the time of their coming; but my people know not the judgment of the LORD.  8  How do ye say, We are wise, and the law of the LORD is with us? Lo, certainly in vain made he it; the pen of the scribes is in vain.  9  The wise men are ashamed, they are dismayed and taken: lo, they have rejected the word of the LORD; and what wisdom is in them?

(We see do today see ample evidence today of pastors even distorting what they Bible actually says.. even on issues like divorce.. God says no divorce.. no abortion.. no murder... and no gays.)

10  Therefore will I give their wives unto others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them: for every one from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely.

( if you look at this verse clearly you will see that divorce is God's punishment, never a blessing too.)

11  For they have healed the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no peace.  12  Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore shall they fall among them that fall: in the time of their visitation they shall be cast down, saith the LORD.

( bad pastors will also pay a price for their lying, unrepentant sins.. that is why so many of them commit adultery now still)

13  I will surely consume them, saith the LORD: there shall be no grapes on the vine, nor figs on the fig tree, and the leaf shall fade; and the things that I have given them shall pass away from them.

(James 4:1 KJV)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? 2  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. 3  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. 4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. 5  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? 6  But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. 7  Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up. 11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge. 12  There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?

(James 3:12 KJV)  Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13  Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14  But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15  This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16  For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17  But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18  And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

God has a good  reasons for all of us obeying his laws on marriage and no divorce now  too...

(Rom 11:33 KJV)  O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out! 34  For who hath known the mind of the Lord? or who hath been his counsellor? 35  Or who hath first given to him, and it shall be recompensed unto him again? 36   For of him, and through him, and to him, are all things: to whom be glory for ever. Amen.

(Mal 2:15 KJV)  And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.16   For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting  away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. 17   Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?

Like so many other Biblical doctrines,  social issues man mostly still perverts them.. that includes the topic of divorce too.. because of unbelief in God and lust too..

Now I have validly made up my mind  on the subject by doing a very thorough bible study of the topic.. but if you were to next read many other persons views they are so contradictory even amongst each other.. and I said God do I have to God now even deal with all  of this time consuming, conflicting presentations now again on the subject of divorce and remarriage? And I was next  surprised by God's quick answer, his voice to me directly.. "I hate divorce" and I have personally told you that clearly before too.. and " I  also hate, strongly dislike, oppose any Minister who counsels divorce".. well that was a quick and simple study.. and when anyone deviates from God's marriage standard  they become a deviate.. a pervert.. Ministers of Justice, Prime Ministers,  Presidents and this deviation leads to more and more social problems, social conflicts and not less.. you had started on a very downhill rocky, rough road when you became a deviate, a pervert.

(Rom 1:16 KJV)  For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. 17  For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. 18  For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; 19  Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath showed it unto them. 20  For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: 21  Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22  Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 23  And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. 24  Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25  Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26  For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27  And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. 28  And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29  Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30  Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of  evil things, disobedient to parents, 31  Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32  Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

(2 Pet 2:18 KJV)  For when they speak great swelling words of vanity, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through much wantonness, those that were clean escaped from them who live in error. 19  While they promise them liberty, they themselves are the servants of corruption: for of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he brought in bondage. 20  For if after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein, and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning. 21  For it had been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than, after they have known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered unto them. 22 But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.

An  immoral person had sent me an offer to purchase his useless  book on the Christian's right of divorce and remarriage. He said a second marriage was often better than the first.. He is clearly a learned deceiver, unbeliever in God,  he does work for the devil.. I rightfully  replied to him that I did not need more toilet paper I had enough, and I also rightfully told him I did not need someone to lie to me as to what was in the Bible for I do regularly read the Bible for myself. I also told him that I do not need to read a book written by a hireling prostitute. He is using the book to conduct seminars..  Yes I do rightfully have a problem and so should we all with the so called but still very immoral Christians persons, rather thieves who are still trying to make money from the Gospel, Bibles, tapes, videos, Books, seminars now as well. So should we all.  For  I issue all my  helps free.. and only false prophets like this false Minister do ask for and take early earthly  monetary rewards for supposedly serving  God.  I also told this false Minister  that God and Jesus spoke to me but it was very clear not to him..  for  this Minister he does not really know God, Jesus or the Bible's actual teachings..

Needless to say he was very upset at me.. and replied and said to me that I needed to repent for being unloving and unforgiving towards divorced persons..

but I am really still also sure he does not even know what the word "repent" means. It really means saying to God,  God I have sinned, I have not obeyed your very clear commandments in the Bible for a start too even on being married only to one wife and no divorce, I will now obey them and please forgive me for not doing so before. Now let God lead you as to what the right thing is for you to do next as well.. are you a Christian Divorced from a Christian spouse? then you have no right to a remarriage still till  your spouse dies.. Not my rule, but God's.

(1 John 1:9 KJV)  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:10 KJV) If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.

Wounded marriages facing divorce can be made whole but very unlikely by Canada's at least 70 percent still ungodly, immoral, lustful pastors, evangelical ones  included who wrongfully take the false, supposedly easier way by counseling , recommending divorce.. I know what I am talking about I only helped to remove  about 18 of them, very poor pastors from their churches in Canada, including three founding church pastors now as well. and what has the Mother in law to do with it? Recently it was in the sate of Washington where a police chief even shot his wife.. and recently the news media reported that Restraining order served on B.C. man hours before wife, mother-in-law slain- - MISSION, B.C. -- A man was being sought after his wife and mother-in-law were shot to death at a hospital had been served with a restraining order hours earlier for harassing his wife, RCMP said..  This same person later shot and killed himself when the police had found him.

These deaths are tragic and likely could have been prevented here and elsewhere too now ..if they had been adequately dealt with next not by easy divorce, restraining orders but by the proper pastoral counseling.. something our ostrich oriented  justice ministers wrongfully try to hide from, and I don't really blame them when 70 percent of the pastors are crooked themselves in Canada. In reality more women are filing for divorce than men, and more of them in western Canada than the east per capita.. but adultery is also wrongly rampant there too..

If a pastor, counselor, husband  wants to successfully deal with this he needs also to deal and expose these three items

A women tends not to file for divorce unless

1: She already in her mind, or in reality has a sexual partner substitute..

2: She has built up or acquired a cash reserve for the lawyers, divorce court battles..

3: She has the wrong immoral support of her family, friends, associated, community to carry out this wrong adulterous divorce..

Thiose are the facts of life as Jesus told me relating to divorce..

- A women has the false immoral  support of her family, and false friends, sadly even pastors,  when she applies for divorce.. they are immoral like her and they need to be told this too..  do not hesitate to tell them the whole truth

- A women does not file for divorce unless she in her  own real mind she has a substitute sex partner planed next already too.. she will next rush to him.. even though it is mostly also a fantasy not known to others .. unrealistic expectations of life.. a key contributory cause to the sexual divorces mostly today... but you had already agreed with this I see..

- Also do tell Her the wife  that before she tries to remove the beam from her husband she needs to still first deal with the beam in her own eye.. first and she needs to let Jesus still make any of the changes in the marriage .. in his time and his way..

- A women also  does not  file for divorce unless he has at least 10- 15, 000 dollars stashed away to pay the lawyers, and she also expects to make money form the divorce.. and that still makes her an sexual and now economic prostitute.. admit it or not this is a fact.

- and the way she is now treating her husband is the sadly way she responds to God as well in realty and that too still is unacceptable.

(Eph 5:23 KJV)  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

I also whole heartily agree that a wife going behind her husband's back to her relatives, to her pastors, to others is immoral.. is a sin of rebellion as well and I pray she also really now, next repents of this and stops doing this as well.

All the cases where I was able to reconcile the partners, they had to admit. deal with the truths... in other words they had to repent, of these sins, admit how sinful they themselves were, are. .. all of them.. and the still lazy people who do now really not stay in God's word, cause they are spoiled rotten and undisciplined now too  God in irony allows them to be divorce, to be punished..

Now I have often seen, encountered  this pattern. For example I had told one of my business partner that his wife was having an affair and was palling to divorce him.. he totally disbelieved me.. could I blame it.. it is a shocking jolt to the system. I knew it cause she had asked me out on a date that I had rightfully turned down. He was troubled by what I had said and he went home and thought about.. He decided that he would go through his wife personal affairs and discovered that she had salted away, hidden from him 15,000 dollars. He had  found a bank deposit book in one of her boots. But this man denied his wife was filing for her divorce or was having an affair. A few weeks later during a heated  quarrel with his wife, his wife blurted out, you are not the only one I have slept with, I have slept with two other guys now as well.. A few months later she field for divorce and divorce him.  The 15,000 dollars was given to her by her brother for the divorce.. .
Denying one own personal responsibility, sins by getting a divorce is still an imoral, stuipid thing to do as well.

(Prov 31:12 KJV)  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

(Exo 20:14 KJV)  Thou shalt not commit adultery.

(Exo 20:17 KJV)  Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

(Mat 5:28 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

(Mat 5:32 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: ( Divorce)  for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

I want you also to specifically also not still note God's warning of promise of clothing of violence will follow in the future all of those who DO STILL pursue divorce..

Many people get depressed rightfully when they do really  see what other people are really like today... even among their own bad family members, bad pastors, bad elders, bad politicians, bad lawyers.. etc. It is still a sin to follow men over God as well.

God is not taken by surprised by any of this he still has all things under control

(2 Pet 2:7 KJV)     And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 8  (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;) 9  The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:

(John 2:24 KJV)  But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men, 25  And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.

Sadly divorce is on the increase even among Christians wrongfully , with more women filing for divorces than men as well

Telling all the parties the truth is the first part..  you can start by sending them this.. if you really do now  want to fully help, deal with this practically.

(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

(Jer 5:8 KJV)  They were as fed horses in the morning: every one neighed after his neighbour's wife. 9 Shall I not visit for these things? saith the LORD: and shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as this?

(Jer 9:1 KJV)  Oh that my head were waters, and mine eyes a fountain of tears, that I might weep day and night for the slain of the daughter of my people!  2  Oh that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an assembly of treacherous men.

(Isa 6:5 KJV)  Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts.

(Jer 23:9 KJV)  Mine heart within me is broken because of the prophets; all my bones shake; I am like a drunken man, and like a man whom wine hath overcome, because of the LORD, and because of the words of his holiness. 10 For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force is not right. 11 For both prophet and priest are profane; yea, in my house have I found their wickedness, saith the LORD. 12  Wherefore their way shall be unto them as slippery ways in the darkness: they shall be driven on, and fall therein: for I will bring evil upon them, even the year of their visitation, saith the LORD.

Firstly a wife (or a husband)  who is proceeding with divorce is being led by her sexual hormones, lusts , and that is the number one reasons for almost all of the divorces by women as well today.. they watch too much sex on TV, women's magazines, advertisements and they think they should have the same life.. sex does not make one happy.. Jesus alone does. (Psa 51:10-12 KJV) "Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. {11} Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me. {12} Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit."

"King Arthur had a wife who next wanted Lancelot to seduce her".. this kind of demonic fantasy is the unacceptable reality of many ungodly women even today.

People who could  approve of divorce, could also next approve of  abortion and would approve of murder next too..

The people who get divorce on the average will increase their health problems due to the related stress of a divorce, cause divorce is from hell and not from God..

-and they never  experience the real fruit of the Holy Spirit of peace, gentleness.. during or after...

- they will live on the average of 8 years less too.. all of this just  for a start.

With the measure you measure it will be measured back to you.. for (Gal 6:7 KJV)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

This  verse still applies for all of  her false divorce supporters too.. I know of many many many selfish, unrepentant Friends, neighbours, mothers who wrecked marriages.. lives.. and did not stop doing it too. they all also still needs to really  repent,  get right with God, the wife and  the husband too..

God sees what people will be like at the end after they go through much more hell on earth.. and then may admit how bad they are and the world is.. we sadly  really still cannot stop any of the  persons suffering really hard next too no matter how much we do  care for, really do love them, just like the prodigal son they too may  have to mostly learn the hard way take the long way home too..

(Ezek 14:19  KJV)   Or if I send a pestilence into that land, and pour out my fury upon it in blood, to cut off from it man and beast: 20  Though Noah, Daniel, and Job, were in it, as I live, saith the Lord GOD, they shall deliver neither son nor daughter; they shall but deliver their own souls by their righteousness. ... 23  And they shall comfort you, when ye see their ways and their doings: and ye shall know that I have not done without cause all that I have done in it, saith the Lord GOD.

All simple too

Praying they will respond to the truth presented is another matter  .. but it  still means the truth has to be told.

Take for example now also
http://www.homefrontcalgary.com/  HomeFront's mission is to reduce domestic violence in Calgary through coordinated community action.  Or is this in reality just another false Calgary Police public relationship site? why just deal with domestic violence now, and why not with all domestic abuses too?

For a start they should also  deal with those usless and immoral vultures.. the   lawyers , both male and female now too, even in our federal cabinet ehh,  who have wrongfully promoted, encouraged divorce during the recessions as a viable alternative means of employment for them.. and then we promote some of these perverts to judges now as well? Unfortunately I met too many of them in Calgary politics and in the Calgary social circles and found out how immoral many of them were too..

When my wife wrongfully field for divorce, because as she said she would not support a cripple the rest of her life, the lawyers seized the homes hoping to pay their legal costs, they wanted me to support financially their immoral criminal act.. instead the home went into foreclosure, they got no money out of it.. and when the home went into foreclosure my wife's lawyers and even my dropped their divorce involvement, they this all had refused to go ahead with the divorce.

all things do work out for the good  of those who love God, but the evil persons rather  fall into the pit they dug with their own hands still, next..

(2 Cor 1:3 KJV)  Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; 4  Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. 5  For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ. 6  And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation. 7  And our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye are partakers of the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation. 8  For we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in  Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life: 9  But we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead: 10 Who delivered us from so great a death, and doth deliver: in whom we trust that he will yet deliver us;

and next I had the time and I was even next able to have a rightful honest Biblical understanding of divorce too and am able to counsel divorcees with God truths and not man's distorted lies, based on their own wrong lusts..

(Heb 12:2 KJV)  Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.   3  For consider him that endured such  contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. 4  Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin. 5  And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: 6  For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 7  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 8  But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.
 
(Lam 3:31 KJV)  For the Lord will not cast off for ever: 32  But though he cause grief, yet will he have compassion according to the multitude of his mercies. 33  For he doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men.   34  To crush under his feet all the prisoners of the earth, 35  To turn aside the right of a man before the face of the most High, 36  To subvert a man in his cause, the Lord approveth not.
 
The  visible difference between "law" and "justice", while being subtle, causes  me personally also to also review  the proper role of Canada's  legal system.
 
Since EVEN EARLY  days, those who dominated society remained in power in Canada also by surrounding themselves with individuals or groups of allies WHO ALSO  who could provide them  personally too with a defense against either physical or legal challenges of them. That is why an free individual using his right of free speech and writing a personally critical letter of their immorality to a Mayor  , a Prime Minister  or a Premier   now can still too often have the police immediately being sent to your home to try to falsely intimidate you and to silence you. ( Now I have experienced this firsthand.) This too common flaw in the legal system is due to the unacceptable fact that  the minority elite have too often now  used their monetary, political influence to distort the application of justice, of the laws themselves even with the help of other  key political leaders, all  in order to be more able effectively maintain a status quo, all of which helps mostly the  allow a minority group to economically and politically dominate and manipulate the majority. 
 
"Contrary to the generally believed precept, it is not the responsibility of either judges or lawyers to make sure that justice prevails. Whether a law is "just", or not, is quite really irrelevant to both judges and lawyers. To some judges wrongfully their  job is simply to interpret and enforce "the law". They can also and some do interpret the law in a manner most favorable to those in power, or to themselves even  when there is some personally benefit for them as well to be achieved" Wrongful Politics being played  is why you can see different results in various provinces, federal and provincial courts.
 
The law society itself are not impartial to this in their duties of helping to  enforce the laws of the land, for sadly the legal community is an integral perverse part of the reason why an elite group can and continues to dominate society and distort the enforcement of the  laws, justice too.  The legal fraternity itself too have been able to achieve this for their paying masters without brute physical force but by lies, pretense and a facade of respectability.  The legal community can give their loyalties to the highest bidders, and not to carrying out of honest justice and that has been and continues to be the rule, rather than the exception.  
 
The justice, court system itself is too often an unacceptable part of the legal system  facade, where too often still the pretentious  key players are merely going through the motions of carrying out justice, and not really doing it,  even as I have too often seen firsthand whether it is in Alberta's traffic fine court, even in many  family courts.
 
The Law Practices and even the Courts now are still firstly Profit-oriented Businesses and generally like any and every other business, their first priority is to make profits and not to provide real justice, fairness. Secondly they are also politically oriented for what lawyer has not considered next going into politics or getting an political appointment as judge? Whether lawyers are defending the criminal or the victim, they are out to win for their clients hopefully but mostly for  themselves. Real Justice becomes mostly irrelevant. Even the well paying crooks, liars and cheats,  criminals seem to have no difficulty whatsoever even in hiring lawyers from prestigious law firms who are well connected with the upper echelons of the judiciary to help in  the perversity of justice actually carried out. Because in our court system the one group mutually also supports the other, thus the legal fraternity has been able to carry out their mandates immorally and  basically they tend to be generally wrongfully unchallenged by the Courts too.
 
Those who attempt to challenge the authority or wisdom of the Courts can also still be immediately silenced, by intimidation, and when necessary, jailed for "Contempt of Court" something I also have seen firsthand. Of course this weapon is too often brought out, when required, and serves effectively to suppress any threats against the "Divine Right of The Elite". 
 
Doing nothing in fact in reality about these perversions in Canada's justice system also still next makes you an immoral accomplice, and not a saint, or a hero. 
 
 Now if I can see it all now clearly then who is being fooled ? certainly not me. Nor many others. God is not part of this system , nor like this now too so how long do you think God himself will put up with these perversities of justice before he himself effects some drastic acts to deal with this too on the key individuals  now as well? Not too long.
 
 A house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25)  applies to  the Churches, and our homes, and our marriages too.
 
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